You have given a massage and received one [maybe you have simultaneously given and received? Creative]. As the giver, it was your responsibility to keep your fingers moving, apply oil, etc. As the receiver, you were tasked with receiving – keep still, relax your muscles, sigh approvingly, etc. Have you ever passively [un]received [positioned yourself stubbornly, refused to remove undergarments, etc.]? And even then, did your actions of non-compliance succeed in making things difficult for your masseuse [e.g. you affected her anyway]?